Marcy S., age 47, North Carolina

I just reread my vow to write a positive thought each day — which I haven’t done, but I have been thinking more positively and repeating to myself “Trust the Holy Spirit.” Someone who signed himself (or herself) “Lonely and Lost” had written Ann Landers a confidential letter. Her answer was that he needed to lose himself in something bigger than himself.

Maybe this Christmas can be different if I really concentrate on other people’s happiness. The more I think about others the less time I’ll have to fall into the trap of depression that took all the joy out of last Christmas.